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[macgyver655]

Well I guess I'll I will make a comment now. After letting these rantings go on for a few days without responding probably has everyone wondering what the hell is up. At this time I'm not going to respond to things that were said here but to only say there are many things that are inaccurate. But here is what I do want to say.

Many of you may think that I think I wish I never started this thread. Also there was a point where I asked Kal to delete it, which he wouldn't, and I'm glad he didn't. Then there was the point where Curt emailed me and asked if I wanted the thread killed. I thought about it a little and told him no. And at this point I'm glad its still here. And as far as I'm concerned it will be here as long as the site is up.

Why? you ask.

This site consists of many types of people from all around the world. Some are young and still in school, some married, some not, some with g/f's, some just thinking about relationships. Everybody here now or who comes here in the future needs to read this thread and see what can happen in a relationship. Everything could be great, but there's always the possibility of something like this. I only hope that this thread will make people think about there relationship and of ways to protect themselves just in case. If this thread saves just one person from going through a situation like this, then its well worth leaving it here. I give my humiliation in hopes to help others.

Many of you have PM'ed me with support and also of stories of situations that you had also gone through. As bad as some of what you have read here seems, others here have told me of their stories which make this one look like a cake walk. I cant believe some of the things you guys have gone through.

I am also very proud to call all of you here my friends. Even though many did not get involved in the thread,, you PM'ed me your support. Everyone here is a great bunch of people and I hope to still be here after this is long gone. This is definitely the greatest site ever, and not just for projectors but for truly great friends.

I may post more later on some of these issues, I may not. I would also suggest that others post there experiences here to expand the knowledge.

I know this is the CRT section and this thread did not apply to it, however it applies to everyone................................. just to make you think about your own life and how secure you are in it. I also ask that it remains in this section because it is the most visited. I'm sure we added a lot of google search words to this site from this thread so we will probably have visitors from all walks of life.

Again, thanks from all of you who I proudly call my friends.

Until we chat again, Ron................................................

[sparky_grl]

[macgyver655]

[wallace123456]

oh, BTW, BOOOO!!!!

Happy Halloween!!!

wallace

[Superbit1978]

Hello mac hang in there buddy don,t worry about this sick person anyway what kind of person would right all this sh*t up about your personal life is just sick.and the looks of things see is just f*cking lazy.let here keep the f*cking house what you need to do is this look for a big stack of termites and put it in the house

regards patrick

[JustGreg]

I said the same thing way back in my post on page 500 or so.

You didn't have to explain the effects illness and meds have Ron but I respect an open and honest person who isn't afraid to wade into the TMI pool. I could give a rats ass who wants to judge me. That's their failing...not mine. I've always been like that and generally all my posts reflect that. And, when I make a new male friend I don't ask his dick size (nor do I really want that info) and a good woman wouldn't give a rats ass either.

Such things are the trappings of youth. It may be important to the young (t*t size, dick size, weight, hair) but when you get older and any or all of those things fail; that's the true test of a relationship. Love is love....sex is sex. Too many people confuse the two and have no foundation for a lasting relationship. That foundation is also the support mechanism for the bad things that happen to couples. Thank God my wife and I did two very important things right to build and nurture that foundation.

1) We NEVER kicked the door open to an escalating line of verbal abuse. Once said, you can't take it back. The next fight is more hurtful, rinse and repeat. Then your relationship runs on anger and a deep seated twisted need for self abuse.

2) We worked hard to keep everything 50/50. If the relationship is any variation of that....somebody is in charge and somebody is subserviant. To tell the truth, I don't want to be in charge. I like our concensus related relationship.

We learned the two simple things from our previous marriages to psychopaths and it's served us well. Not everyone will agree but I'll bet every good relationship is based around our two simple 'rules'. We've survived most everything from 'normal' financial problems to our kids killed in Iraq, to the teen suicide of our daughter. If we didn't have more than sex we wouldn't have made it.

I wonder Ron if you are projecting something that attracted her to you. I mean, the two things you mentioned about your condition are humbling and crushing to the male ego. I take alot of meds for my heart and 15 or so ulcers and am in constant pain from spinal arthritis. That's as far as I'm going to go sharing anything else too!...but thank God again I ended up with an amazing woman who rather than become bitter and scornful is understanding and supportive.

If I hadn't been traveling for my job at that precise time, that precise part of the country, etc. when I met her, I may not have ended up as happy as I am now. Although my ex had a rockin body, and knew how to use it, I'm positive I would have gotten to the point in life where that wouldn't be enough to overcome the fact she was a knife wielding raving lunatic.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go look for your Mrs. Right. She's out there. Or don't. <shrug> Since when did the enviable art of Bachelorhood become a stigma? Alone time is a great argument for this hobby that's for sure.

Best of luck brother.

[Superbit1978]

Amen to you SIR GREG it could not be better sad. hats of to you

regards patrick

[rabies_70]

Now this thread REALLY sucks all mushy and nice...just kidding. I all seriousness, some of you girls and guys are some of the nicest people I've never met. One of the things that compels me to read this forum every day, 10 or 20 or 30 times a day is that I always learn something here. Not just about CRT or theater or electronics. sh*t sometimes I even get a lesson on the good side of humanity which really sucks because I don't want my cold black heart to think nice things, so now y'all suck again.